One of my favorite books is Creating True Prosperity by Shakti Gawain in which she talks about understanding polarities. In here she talks about the concept that we can not truly receive if we can not give and vice versa. We often want, want, want but are not often prepared to give anything in return.
My daughter and I both bank at a local credit union here in Vancouver. Last week we went in to deposit her piggybank (her long-term savings) and set up a spending account for her. We had the most gracious young woman serve us and she was so patient answering all of my daughter’s questions. She asked a lot of questions, including “what do you do with my money?” Fair question! The woman took us over to a little room with a beautiful mural on the wall that explained what they do with her money. Being a very progressive credit union they invest the money back into the community via loans and various other initiatives. She explained the flow of money to her and how it needs to flow.
I have also taught her to donate a certain amount of her money to causes that are important to her. Today she surprised me and added her own cash to the canned goods donation she made at her dance class today. She has a real soft spot for homelessness and hunger.
Personally, I love giving and I seem to attract a lot of clients that love to give. Yes, giving is a requirement for the flow of money but it does not have to be money, it can be your skills and time. Everyone has something in them to give. I recently saw a Facebook post about an elderly man in a hospital bed knitting hats for the homeless. It can be as simple as going to volunteer at your local food bank, helping an elderly neighbor. This in itself, is a long lost thing. Helping our neighbors, that is.
Christmas time is a popular time of year for people to make financial donations but service is equally needed. It is really important to align yourself with something that you really believe in and either do a financial or time gift.
On the extreme side of giving there are those that give too much. Yes, too much. I have seen so much of this that I put it in my webinar on 5 Financial Mistakes Women Make with their Money. I have seen women give so much that they do not have enough for food for themselves. Finding the balance is equally important. Your wellbeing is just as important and you don’t want to end up in the place where you have nothing to give. That serves nobody!
In my scenario of those that give all they have, these people actually have very little to begin with because they can not receive. I have a friend that continually deflected anything coming to her and would complain she has nothing. But she did not allow it to come to her and outright deflected it. She would ask for something and someone would offer to give it to her but she would not accept it. This was some of the biggest self-sabotaging behavior I have ever seen. But it happens. There was lots of healing that needed to happen to her and that takes time. Happy to report that she is progressing!
I also see people that are afraid to give as they feel there is not enough or they will give when they make a lot of money. But I ask, how much is enough for you to have before you are willing to give. This is very much a lack mentality and a mindset that will hold you back from true wealth and abundance. You have to have faith that the Universe will continue to provide to you if you give.
The Universal Laws also come into play here. If you want more love you need to give more love. If you want to have more money you need to give more money. It is quite simple. You get what you give and this relates to all aspects of life. Check in with your self to see where you give and if it is in alignment with what you want in life!